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May 8th, 2013

What It Feels Like for a Mom

“A boy’s best friend is his mother.”
— Norman Bates, Psycho

Theater of BloodI was standing at the ticket counter of the movie theater and couldn’t believe my ears. They were telling me that “Theater of Blood,” with the great Vincent Price, was rated “R” and they were not letting me in without a parent. I was a horror-movie obsessed boy of 12, and was inconsolable. “I won’t look at any sexy stuff,” I remember pleading, “I just came for the gore!”

With visions of decapitations fading like an old blood stain, I made the long walk back home and exposed my broken heart to Mother, who made one of the grandest gestures of my childhood: she took me back for the late show. On a school night.

MotherIt wouldn’t be the last time she had my back. Over the years she proved a trustworthy ally, and this was never more true than in the 1980’s, when gay men often lost their mothers — hell, their entire families – when an AIDS diagnosis was revealed.

Mom never abandoned me or my gay older brother, Dick (is there no gayer name than Dick King? Did my parents consult the Falcon Video Book of Baby Names?). I tested positive in 1985, and Mom immediately went to work educating herself on HIV.

My brother was spared HIV infection but suffered its cruelty nevertheless: his lover of 13 years, Emil, died of AIDS in the early, scorched-earth years of the epidemic.

In this special Mother’s Day episode of my ongoing video series “My Fabulous Disease,” I sat Mom down to find out things I’ve never asked before. What did she really feel when she found out I was positive? Did she believe I would die? Do mothers have a right to know? What advice would she offer other families? We also talk about the loss of Emil and the repercussions from it we still feel today.

Mom is no expert. She isn’t an AIDS researcher and she doesn’t march on Washington. She just loves her kids and tries to understand what is happening in their lives and how she can help. If your mother is like mine, we have a lot to celebrate (or remember) this Mother’s Day weekend.

Enjoy the video, and please, stay well.

Mark

(This post originally appeared on Mothers Day, 2010, and I’m happy to report that Mom is doing just great. I wanted to share this with you again. — Mark)

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PLUS…

While Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart has been getting the Broadway love the last few years, another, equally stunning AIDS play from that era is getting a deserved remounting. The Night Larry Kramer Kissed Me, a one man show about being gay and AIDS activism by the engaging David Drake, is being performed for one night only in New York City on Monday, May 20, at Gerard W. Lynch Theater at John Jay College. It’s a benefit for Broadway CARES and The SERO Project. Even more exciting, Broadway stars have joined the effort and have made David’s one man show into a ensemble piece. If you are anywhere in the area, follow this link and get your tickets now! For a terrific interview with David about the transformation of his historic show, read his interview in POZ Magazine.

5 Responses to “What It Feels Like for a Mom”

  1. Joe T Says:

    May 8th, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    Thanks for sharing this again…..I lost my mom awhile ago but I can say that she too always had my back and always told me she loved me no matter what….It is what has gave me that strength that keeps me keeping on!

    Big Love,
    JT

  2. Charlie Says:

    May 8th, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    Loved seeing your mom discussing the HIV/AIDS. She is one of the most educated people I know. She looks great and so much like your grandma. Wish a Happy Mothers Day to your mom for me. I still think about her and how much love she gave me while we were together.

  3. Aliya Says:

    May 9th, 2013 at 3:29 am

    Thank you for sharing this video. I wish there more parents in the world as understanding and supporting as your Mom.
    I wish you and your family and friends all my best wishes.

  4. Sue Says:

    May 12th, 2013 at 11:44 am

    What a wonderful mother you have.

  5. Anne Says:

    May 13th, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    What a lovely Mother’s day gift. again. Thanks, son.

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