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The Inspiring Advocates of the 2013 U.S. Conference on AIDS

At the recent 2013 United States Conference on AIDS (USCA) in New Orleans, the word “stigma” wafted through the event, in workshops and throughout the exhibit hall, like an annoying new pop song you couldn’t stop humming.

Mondo GrabThe Stigma Project. The Mr. Friendly campaign. The CDC “Let’s Stop HIV Together” media campaign. My own POZ Magazine stigma cover story issue (“The Sound of Stigma”), an indictment of gay community and the antipathy between positive and negative, sat in stacks at the POZ booth. Panel discussions and workshops were held on identifying stigma, combating it, living with it. If Lady GaGa would only record an anthem about it, she could finally knock Katy Perry off the charts.

But there’s good reason for it. As Peter Staley (How to Survive a Plague) said in a session of people living with HIV, “One of the biggest generational shifts that I find most depressing is that most of the stigma we deal with now comes from within communities.”

In my video blog recap, you’ll meet as lot of people addressing this issue in various ways. You’re also going to meet advocates of both the celebrity variety (Mondo Guerra of Project Runway (photo at top), and photographer Duane Cramer) and those doing the work on the ground in communities large and small. As usual, it was the people and their personal commitment that caught my attention, and this recap is a salute to their efforts.

The generational differences Peter Staley spoke of is also a curious new bend in the culture of HIV. Once upon a time, our communal experience of AIDS, at least as gay men, was much the same. Our lives were bound in the sameness of death, despair, and then, hope. But since then our generations have separated, with younger gay men less traumatized or fearful about the virus, and (too Xanax many) older gay men judging them for behaviors and mistakes we ourselves made in our youth. This too is a subject ripe for conversation, with writers like the irritatingly young Tyler Curry broaching the topic, and public forums springing up to address the matter of post-traumatic stress among “the AIDS generation,” which I suppose means me.

To some, conferences like USCA represent “AIDS, Inc.,” or a waste of resources that feels self-congratulatory and a poor excuse for plane flights and rubber chicken plenary lunches. I disagree. If the pharmaceutical industry, highly visible and paying much of the tab at events like these, wants to underwrite sessions while promoting their key messages and products, they can be my guest. Conference attendess are sharp enough to take what they need and leave the rest, and the pure energy and support between those doing the work is worth the cost in my mind.

As Paul Kawata, of the National Minority AIDS Council, the producers of the event, said to me, “If we can inspire people to devote one more to year fighting this epidemic, I feel like we’ve won.”

Thanks for watching, and please be well.




MarkTimeMachineGrabI have the privilege of presenting “Mark’s Poz Time Machine” at a retreat for poz men in Montana this weekend, hosted by the Montana Gay Men’s Task Force. I really enjoy this presentation, which is an interactive walk through the history of of HIV/AIDS, from 1981 to the present, using video clips and photos, my own story, and drawing upon the life experiences of participants along the way. From my pre-AIDS win on The Price is Right to the tears of the mid 1980’s and then a re-established HIV culture, it allows everyone to contribute some powerful storytelling and a shared history. If you would like more information, contact me. I come cheap.



By | 2014-05-21T13:15:51+00:00 September 16th, 2013|Gay Life, My Fabulous Disease, News, Prevention and Policy|5 Comments


  1. Bob Dew Jr September 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm

    Good Job, Mark.
    You continue to make all of us proud through your good work.

  2. Kamaria Laffrey September 16, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    Awesome blog Mark! As I’ve said to anyone who will listen since I’ve returned, the conversations that were held at USCA were vital for younger generations who I feel haven’t taken the time to respect the history and the generation gap of HIV/AIDS. This includes me. It was wonderful meeting you, Peter Staley and all the others that helped open my eyes to things that I need to be a better advocate.

  3. stephanie j brown September 17, 2013 at 11:38 am

    love it! love it! love it! youre awesome Mark 🙂

  4. Lepena September 17, 2013 at 8:21 pm

    What a GREAT recap, allowed me to review the entire conference, always a privilege to be around your Fabulous Superstar energy, you bring the message home with quality & humor !

  5. robert allen September 29, 2013 at 8:40 pm

    thank you for what you do, i do so appreciate it. keep on keeping on. luv ya.

    (xoxoxo – Mark)

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